DVD Lending Library
If you are an APVC member in good standing, you have access to our DVD Lending Library. For a small deposit along with a signed contract, sign out one of our DVD sets for a 1 week period (2 weeks for sets of 3 or more DVDs). If you are already a member and wish arrange a check out, please fill out this form. These DVDs are in high demand, so there may be a bit of a wait. You will be informed of approximate wait upon completion of the form by one of our Education Committee members.
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Our Current Inventory:
Alpha Children (South Library): A four-hour course explaining how to reclaim our rightful place in their lives - divided into four 1-hour sessions
A growing number of children and youth are presenting as demanding, prescriptive, bossy and controlling. A disturbing number of these alpha children are turning into bullies as well. Alpha children can be challenging to manage and, by their nature, are more likely to present with troubling behaviour. This is making the child-adult dance much more difficult than it used to be or needs to be, despite the plethora of advice-giving and strategies available today. Internationally renowned developmental psychologist Dr. Neufeld uncovers the surprising roots of the alpha complex and in doing so, opens the doors for lasting change: in the family, in the classroom and in society.
Making Sense of Anxiety in Children and Youth (North Library): A four-hour course with surprising solutions to a growing problem - divided into four 1-hour sessions
There is currently an epidemic of anxiety affecting children of all ages. Differing estimates suggest that one in five to one in eight qualify for an anxiety disorder diagnosis, making this the most common diagnosis in children. Anxiety can take many forms including obsessions, compulsions, phobias, panic, as well as a host of perplexing seeking and avoidant behaviours. Various strategies are emerging on how to treat anxiety problems, but most interventions are hand-me-downs from adult treatment and are questionable in terms of their appropriateness with children.
We cannot treat something that we do not understand; making sense of anxiety is foundational to its cure. This is where Dr. Neufeld begins, putting the pieces of the anxiety puzzle together to reveal roots deep in separation alarm. Dr. Neufeld’s comprehensive model of attachment provides new meaning to the construct of separation and lays the foundation for effective treatment and cure. In mapping out the separation complex, Dr. Neufeld also reveals the relationship of anxiety to other common childhood issues including dominance, aggression and attention problems. Dr. Neufeld brings a fresh and promising perspective to one of our most troubling and perplexing human problems.
As usual with Dr. Neufeld’s courses, even though the focus is on children, the material applies to adults as well.
Making Sense of Preschoolers (South Library): A six hour course explaining what every child needs us to know about them - divided into 12 half-hour modules
No one is more susceptible to being misunderstood than the preschooler. Precocious, brazen, obsessive, endearing, hysterical, impulsive, anxious, delightful, unreflective, dogmatic, generous, unstable, aggressive, resistant, compulsive, and anything but consistent - the preschooler could qualify for any number of personality and behaviour disorders. Unlike infants and toddlers, preschoolers actually bear a resemblance to grown-ups and therefore fool us into thinking that they are much more like us than they really are. Projecting our psychology onto them is a typical mistake.
Using his many years of experience as a developmental psychologist and his mastery of the developmental literature, Dr. Neufeld leads us into the interior landscape of the preschooler. He provides insight into their shyness, separation anxieties, aggression, resistance, oppositionality and more. Making sense of these confusing yet wondrous creatures lays the foundation for intuitive and fruitful interaction with them.
This video course is intended for parents as well as professionals, early educators as well as daycare providers. The format of this course is highly flexible for study, easily divided into twelve ½ hour sessions, or six 1-hour sessions or four 1 ½ hour sessions.
The title of this course may be misleading as it would suggest a 2-5 year age range only. In fact, understanding the preschooler is key to making sense of immaturity at any age.
Adolescence and Sexuality (South Library): A fresh look at today’s youth using the latest understandings of human sexuality - four one-hour sessions
Today’s adolescents live in a hypersexualized culture. Most have received a school- based sex education where safe sex typically refers to physical intimacy that is free of sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancy. Despite their greater exposure and education, current evidence suggests that many youth are in trouble sexually and that their sexual development is not unfolding as it should.
How is sexuality meant to develop? What is happening today that is different than in previous generations? How does sex affect the brain and bonding? In this course, Dr. Neufeld examines sexuality through the lenses of attachment, maturation and vulnerability. He sheds light on why adolescents are losing their timidity, why sexual interaction is on the rise, and why sexual bullying is becoming a problem. He explores the meaning of safe sex from an attachment-based developmental perspective and provides suggestions for contributing to the healthy unfolding of sexuality in our youth.
This course has been developed for all those involved with today’s teens including parents, teachers and helping professionals. It is also useful preparation for parents of pre-teens. This course is highly recommended for ALL who are involved in the sexual education of our youth, whether formally in school or more significantly at home.
Making Sense of Play (South Library): WHY children need to play and WHAT they need for true play to result - 2 hour presentation
Play - at least the kind that builds brains and forwards development - is becoming an endangered activity among those who need to engage in it most. Part of the problem is the premature pressure on children to learn and to become socialized. Another factor is the amount of screen time that children engage in. The most significant factor however is the failure to provide the conditions that result in the kind of play that helps children realize their true potential.
The information contained in this two-hour course is a must for all parents, day-care providers, and early childhood educators who wish their young charges to become all they were meant to be. Play is not optional from a developmental point of view. Participants not only learn what kind of play is most beneficial but also how to support this activity in children. The information in this two-hour seminar applies to children of all ages although the primary focus is young childhood.
Making Sense of Discipline (South Library): the INs and OUTs of imposing order on children’s behaviour - three 1-hour sessions plus 1 hour of bonus material
Most every parent and teacher wants to know what to do when .... This tends to be the most pressing and universal issue in dealing with children. Finding the right answers to these questions becomes more challenging when parents and teachers are concerned about issues like attachment and healthy development and do not want their discipline methods to undermine or sabotage these processes. At the same time however there is the responsibility to teach the lessons that need to be learned and to impose order when required. This three hour course speaks to the question of what to do when ..., but does so in the larger context of what is required to raise children to their full potential as human beings. Some of the prevailing discipline practices - like time-outs and consequences - are discussed from this perspective. In three short hours, participants have the opportunity to develop a comprehensive approach to discipline with strategies that are attachment-safe and developmentally friendly. The ultimate objective of this course is for parents and teachers to come to the place where the answers will come from their own understanding and where they possess the inner confidence to handle the small stuff as well as the more challenging issues. In addition to the three one-hour sessions, the DVD set comes with 1 hour of bonus material- Session 7 of Power to Parent III - that deals with the special challenges of imposing order on stuck kids.
Hold On To Your Kids (South Library): - the DVD - a 2 hour presentation
This two-hour presentation by Dr. Neufeld captures the heart and soul of his book and the warmth that is hard to convey in writing. Those who have read the book comment on how much more accessible this presentation makes the written material. Those who prefer viewing to reading don't have to miss out on what this book has to offer. This live presentation was professionally videographed and produced.
Relationship Matters DVD (South Library): a 2 hour presentation
This is a professional recording of an outstanding presentation by Dr. Neufeld to a full house at the world famous Chan Centre for the Performing Arts in Vancouver, BC. The talk was received enthusiastically by both long-time students of Neufeld's approach as well as by those who had heard him for the first time. According to the audience, Dr. Neufeld did a brilliant job of explaining why a child's relationship to the adults responsible must be the context for parenting and teaching. All the basic constructs of his teaching are woven into this captivating presentation. If wanting to get a taste of this refreshing approach, or wanting to introduce someone else to Neufeld, this is the place to start.
DVD back cover description: Society has changed. So too have the challenges of parenting and teaching. We all want our children to realize their full potential. We all want our children to become caring and considerate individuals. Yet achieving these outcomes seems to be getting harder in today's world. How do we provide the conditions children need to truly grow up? How do we provide direction and discipline without it backfiring? How do we shield our children against the rising tide of aggression and bullying? Dr. Gordon Neufeld addresses these issues and points to a way through. His approach is refreshing and his insights make sense, not only of today's society but also of the children and youth in our care.
The Power to Parent Series (Both Libraries): the complete set of three sequential eight, one hour sessions
The Power to Parent series is a relationship-based approach to parenting that restores parents to their natural intuition and helps children realize their innate potentials as human beings. Dr. Neufeld takes the best that developmental science has to offer and delivers it directly to the people who are the child's best bet. Dr. Neufeld offers a coherent approach that can guide parents in all their parental interactions with children of all ages. The series is meant to be taken in sequence. Each video-course consists of 8 one-hour sessions. The series can be purchased individually or as a set. These courses are designed for both self and group study, parent education and professional development. For parent educators wishing to facilitate these video-courses, please consult the website for information on certification.
Power to Teach (South Library): four, one hour sessions for educators
Teaching is getting harder, not easier. This despite the fact that teachers have never been more educated, technology has never been more advanced, curriculum has never been so refined and pedagogy has never been so honed. Although these factors are important, the true problem in schooling lies elsewhere. Dr. Neufeld has been joining the dots for over 35 years and has concluded that the power to teach is being eroded in today's society. In his insightful analysis, Dr. Neufeld uncovers four natural sources of power and reveals the handicaps that result when these are missing. He exposes the reasons why today's teachers more than ever need to harness the power of attachment to do their jobs. He also provides practical suggestions on how to do this. Educators who have been exposed to this material have found it most inspiring and helpful. Group facilitation requires certification.
Making Sense of Adolescence (North Library): eight, one hour sessions
Crossing the bridge from childhood to adulthood has never been so daunting. The time of adolescence is longer than ever and yet society today offers little support in understanding or facilitating this transition. What is nature's purpose? What is the developmental design? What is meant to happen? This course is designed to be used by parents, grandparents, teachers, administrators, professionals - anyone who desires to make sense of adolescence. Dr. Neufeld helps shed light into this often dark and confusing time. He gives both the tools and the eyes to see an adolescent through the journey, and articulates why now more than ever adolescents need our help to cross that bridge. Dr. Neufeld's unique distillation of adolescent psychology and the integration of this material with his rich experience with teens both professionally and as a father, forms the basis of these insights and the suggestions he provides.
Making Sense of Attention Problems (North Library): A four hour course offering natural solutions to a perplexing phenomenon - Four 1-hour sessions
The Attention Deficit Disorder label has brought concerns regarding attention to the fore of public consciousness but unfortunately without the foundational knowledge that enables parents and teachers to find their way through a glut of confusing and often conflicting information. The professionals in charge of diagnosing are often experts at describing the symptoms but tend to come up short when it is time for explanations. Since we can only truly address that which we understand, the prevailing focus in our society has turned to managing symptoms instead of effecting a cure.
There are many kinds of attention problems, most deeply rooted in emotional and developmental dynamics. In this four hour course, participants will gain an understanding of how the attention system develops and what can go wrong and why. Participants will also learn to differentiate between three basic kinds of attention problems that can all lead to an ADD diagnosis. The ultimate objective of the course is to provide the participants with strategies for addressing the roots of the attention problems in such a way that the symptoms abate, regardless of their underlying cause.
Making Sense of Aggression (North Library): A four hour course equipping adults to effectively address or prevent aggression problems in children and youth - Four 1-hour sessions
Aggression problems are deeply rooted in instinct and emotion and therefore resistant to conventional discipline practices. Dr. Neufeld uncovers these roots and outlines steps to addressing them. His rich professional experience with aggressive children and violent youth informs this refreshing approach to an age-old problem. The principles are applicable to children of all ages and to educators and helping professionals in all settings. Parents too can benefit. This material is suitable for both self and group study.
Making Sense of Counterwill (South Library): Explaining why kids resist and how to deal with it - Four 1-hour sessions
The instinct to resist being controlled or coerced is one of the most perplexing and troublesome dynamics in dealing with children and youth. The counterwill instinct is manifest in a myriad of behaviours and attitudes, and some children are highly afflicted. Dr. Neufeld reveals the dynamics controlling this instinct and provides suggestions for how to deal with this troubling phenomenon. This material is applicable for all adults dealing with toddlers through adolescents - teachers, parents and helping professionals. Participants find the insights highly enlightening and life-changing. This material is suitable for both self and group study.
Bullies - Their Making and Unmaking (North Library): four 1-hour sessions
In this 4 hour video course, Dr. Neufeld sheds light on this dark side of human nature. This refreshing developmental analysis of bullies reveals instinctive roots embedded in the dynamics of attachment and the flight from vulnerability. The implications for intervention and treatment are profound and largely counter to prevailing approaches. Invited to keynote on Canada's first national conference on bullying, Dr. Neufeld shares the insights that have evolved as a result of years of experience working with bullies of all kinds, combined with his mastery of the developmental literature. The video course is divided into four 1-hour sessions to faciltitate study.
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Ellyn Satter’s Feeding with Love and Good Sense (South Library)
Close-up, compelling footage of real parents and real children in their homes in actual feeding situations reveals what works and what doesn’t with feeding. Four 15- to 20-minute segments each contain vignettes of five to ten families. Educational DVD for parents created, produced, and narrated by internationally-recognized feeding authority Ellyn Satter. Parents who volunteered to be videoed for this project represent a variety of ethnic groups and income levels.
How to Make Relationships Work: The Gottman Institute (North Library)
Here’s the science behind happy relationships! Dr. John Gottman outlines the findings, tools and techniques that have helped thousands of couples from around the world build a “Sound Relationship House.” A terrific introduction and companion to The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work bestselling book, and the rest of Dr. Gottman’s life-changing research. Begin building your own “Sound Relationship House” and learn about
- Nurturing the friendship between the two of you
- How ‘positive perspective’ occurs (and solves problems) when the friendship bewteen you is strong
- Dealing with your relationship issues and managing conflict
- Finding ways to make each other’s life dreams come true
- Creating shared meaning – building a shared sense of purpose
The Whole-Brain Child (South Library)
In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem-and feel-so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using twelve key strategies, including
- Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain's affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.
- Engage, Don't Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.
- Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child's emotional state.
- Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.
- SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.
- Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.
Unconditional Parenting - Alfie Kohn (South Library)
Most advice for parents begins with the question “How can we get kids to do what they’re told?” – and then proceeds to offer various techniques for controlling them. In his landmark book Unconditional Parenting – and in this talk based on that book – Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking “What are our long-term goals for our children?” It follows that we need to work with them rather than doing thing to them, in order to reach those goals.
Kohn argues that punishments (including time-outs) and rewards (including positive reinforcement) may sometimes produce temporary compliance, but they do nothing to help kids grow into responsible, caring, ethical, happy people. Moreover, he suggests that permissiveness is less worrisome than a fear of permissiveness that leads us to over-control our children. Kohn concludes with ten important guidelines to help viewers reconnect to their own best instincts as parents.
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind (North Library)
In this engaging and practically oriented video, neuropsychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson, explore the ultimate child-raising challenge: discipline.Using their trademark warmth and humor, Siegel and Bryson offer candid stories and practical examples that bring their suggestions to life, showing you how to work with your child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family.
- A compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears -- without causing a scene.
- Effective strategies that help parents identify their own discipline philosophy -- and master the best methods to communicate the lessons they are trying to impart.
- Helpful facts on child brain development -- and what kind of discipline is most appropriate and constructive at various ages and stages.
APVC DVD Lending Library Terms and Conditions
1. DVD borrowing is restricted to APVC members in good standing. If you require
financial assistance to become a paid member, please email the Board of
Directors at email@example.com.
2. Borrowed DVDs are for personal use only.
3. No duplicates can be made of the DVDs.
4. An $80 deposit (cheque or cash) must be left upon pick up of the DVD. APVC
will not cash this deposit unless items are not returned or are damaged.
5. Rental period is two weeks for DVD sets of 1 or 2 disks, and four weeks for DVD
sets of 3 or more disks. A courtesy email will be sent to you if your DVD has
not been returned by the scheduled due date. If the DVD is not returned within:
1 week of the due date, members revoke their ability to rent from the APVC
Lending Library for a period of 2 weeks
2 weeks of the due date, members revoke their ability to rent from the APVC
Lending Library for a period of 1 month
3 weeks of the due date, the deposit is forfeited and members revoke their
ability to rent from the APVC Lending Library for a period of 2 months
6. If you would like to request an extension to your rental period, please email
firstname.lastname@example.org. Extensions will be granted on a case-by-case basis if there
is not a waitlist for that title.
7. DVDs will be inspected upon rental and return for damages. During the initial
rental contract the member will note any damages already present on the DVD.
Subsequent damages will be assessed on a case-by-case basis. If the disk is no
longer operational in part or in whole, the full cost of a replacement DVD will be
deducted from the rental deposit at the time of return.
8. All NSF charges are the responsibility of the APVC member, not APVC. APVC
members whose accounts are in arrears will have all member privileges
suspended until such arrears are rectified.
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