Our online groups run under the umbrella of the Attachment Parents' Village Calgary Society (APVC) which is a registered not-for-profit society in the province of Alberta.
This is an attachment parenting discussion group for attachment parents about parenting and family-related topics. To ensure our conversations stay respectful, we have this User Agreement (UA), a team of volunteer moderators who implement this UA, and a diversity and inclusivity committee. Our UA is a living document and changes may be made at the discretion of the Board of Directors.
Any medical or legal advice given or taken from the discussion is at the discretion of the member. APVC holds no liability to those who follow advice from discussions had in our groups.
We have stances on parenting-related practices that don’t align with attachment-parenting values, as well as stances on hotly debated issues. Use this link (www.apvillage.ca/hot-topics) to familiarize yourself with our views.
In 2017, APVC made a commitment to inclusivity in order to foster safer spaces. Our community is diverse. Our families are made up of racialized folks, LGBTQIA2S+ folks, solo parents, step-parents, single-parent families, two-parent families, multi-parent families, mixed-orientation-parent families, multigenerational families, grandparents, foster parents, adoptive parents, nannies, caregivers, and others.
Our members bring to our village diverse points of views shaped by diverse experiences. For that reason, we ask that everyone participating in our discussion groups and events conduct themselves with respect and empathy. Listen carefully and consider that our perspectives are informed by our privilege, culture, gender identification, race, sexual orientation, abilities and disabilities, religious background, economic status, history, geographical location, and many other circumstances.
We do not tolerate
We do not uphold
- white supremacy
- the patriarchy
By participating in our discussion group, you are agreeing to respect the five guidelines written below. A person who disrespects these guidelines will be given a reminder to comply with the guidelines or removed from the group, depending on the severity of the disrespect. Infractions related to discrimination will be addressed in conjunction with the Diversity & Inclusivity director and committee. Posts that disrespect guidelines 3, 4 and 5 will be deleted by our moderators.
1) Conduct yourself respectfully and courteously. We do not tolerate comments and posts, or “liking” a comment or post, of the following nature:
- Supportive of crying it out, shaming, spanking, and time-outs
- Discriminatory (on the basis of indigeneity, race, colour, ethnicity, nationality, gender identification, sexual orientation, religious affiliation, ability, age, family status, economic status, etc.)
- Abusive, threatening, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, vulgar, defamatory, invasive of a person's privacy, belittling, name-calling, shaming, mocking, or knowingly false
- Sexually explicit. Discussions of a sexual nature should be related to attachment parenting, like sex after delivery, sex and the family bed, etc.
2) Deleting posts and comments is not permitted in cases where there may be discussions or disagreements regarding discrimination and bigotry. Deleting posts creates confusion and hinders resolution when a discussion is in process. Think before you comment and consider the impact of your words on vulnerable members so deleting becomes unnecessary. Members are expected to take responsibility for their words.
Deleting is permitted when unrelated to the above issues, and when the poster has changed their mind about sharing personal information (eg. mental health status, custody issues, etc.)
3) This is a discussion group only. Spam, advertisements and posts that promote any businesses, services, products, sales, blogs, events, fundraisers, courses, giveaways, contests, etc. or that are in search of (ISO) goods or services are not permitted. Exceptions to this rule include ISO donor breast milk, and ISO attachment-focused licensed health care professionals. We invite those wanting to advertise, or searching for goods and services to do so on our Marketplace for APVC group. To gain access to this group, please visit www.apvillage.ca/member and purchase a membership ($15). Memberships are available for free to those for whom purchasing a membership might be financially inaccessible.
4) Use content warnings (CW) or trigger warnings (TW) if you need to post about a sensitive subject. Posts with sensitive content that don’t have a content warning are not permitted. A good warning tells the reader the topic and then leaves space for people to be able to scroll the page without seeing more of your post. Enough lines after the CW or TW make it so people have to click on “Continue Reading” in order to access the content. A content warning or trigger warning post looks like this:
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5) Pictures of genitals and bodily fluids are not permitted. Pictures of the body where health and medical concerns are highlighted must be contained in the comments of a thread only, with an appropriate content warning. Like this: “Babe is one day old and woke up with a rash. Thoughts? Picture in comments.”